You’re Not Broken

When my husband passed away unexpectedly, I felt so very broken. In every way. I thought often about how incredibly broken I was. It became something that I believed without question. And therefore, I acted accordingly: just like a broken person.

Much later I realized that “I’m so broken” simply was not a thought that served me.

For me, “I’m broken” meant that I was neither functional nor repairable. The thought “I’m broken” kept firmly planted in the mire of my misery, unable to break free.

So, I began to sort out what actually was broken. My heart? Definitely. Everything I knew to be safe and comfortable? Yes. The future we had planned? Yes.

Lots of parts of my life felt broken, but I decided that I wasn’t one of them. I decided that “I’m broken” was a lie I was telling myself.

Here’s the truth: I was actually functioning in my new, albeit surreal life. I was getting out of bed when that felt like an unsurmountable task. I was going to work and doing my best. I kept 2 dogs and 4 horses fed, and I eventually learned how to feed myself, too. I learned how to fix sprinklers, which felt like the biggest win.

I was functioning. I was figuring it out. I was not broken.

I don’t think you’re broken, either. I think you’re functioning in this life that, granted, you never wanted. I think you’re doing what needs to be done. I bet that lots of things feel broken, first and foremost, your heart, but overall, I know that you’re not broken.

You simply have a normal human brain, flooded with grief. There is a way forward, and it has nothing to do with waiting for time to heal (thankfully, because it doesn’t).

Healing and rebuilding require only one thing: intentionality. It’s the willingness to question the thoughts you tell yourself and then deciding if they serve you or not, and if not, it’s the decision to choose other thoughts that do.

If I had only known then what I know now. In my 6-month coaching program, I teach you what it took me 6 years to figure out. You’ll heal and find yourself again and you’ll get to experience calm and clarity all along the way. If you’re ready to invest in different results, simply click here to schedule a free Hope Breakthrough Session and we’ll see if it’s a fit.