Who are you, now?

As we make our way through life, we gain new identities and release old ones. In some cases, our identity is established based on the phase of life we are in. We are first a daughter, then a student, eventually a wife, maybe a mom, perhaps an employee or business owner.

There was a shift in identity when we got the degree, when we said, “I do,” when we accepted the job offer and when children came into the picture.

And with the loss of a spouse, we face the most unwanted and perhaps unexpected shift in identity: going from “we” to “me.” Do you know who you are now, in this life after loss?

What does it mean to be you…..now?

One way you can know that you’re being yourself is that there’s no restriction to how you show up in the world. You don’t second guess yourself.

There’s no self-judgment or questioning.

There is simply just being you; telling the truth to yourself and being truthful to others about who you really are. It is caring very little whether someone is going to like you or not.

Think about the people who you think really know you the most. What have you shown them that makes them know you the most? What have you shown them that you don’t show other people? What have they seen that other people haven’t?

 This person really gets me because they know this_________. That is who you are. That is your authentic self.

Maybe you’re reeling from the shock, or merely existing, or starting to live again, maybe even learning to thrive. Those are all versions of you. Spend some time thinking about who you are in this chapter of your life, using the questions above as food for thought.

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