There is no old you to get back to

The loss of your person left nothing in your life untouched or unchanged. It’s that disastrous.

And yet it’s tempting to expect that you will eventually get back to your old self.

• The one that was focused and motivated.
• The version of you that got things done.
• Whose kitchen was clutter free.
• The you who was certain and confident.
• Who made decisions thoughtfully, but without struggle.
• The version of you who didn’t live with so much fear.

In his book The Prophet, Kahlil Gibran suggests that sorrow carves into your being. I bet you can agree.

Profound loss carves permanently into your being, changing you at the core. So, the former you is no more. She was instantly changed in that moment, and she is still changing, adapting and learning.

Grieving is learning. This is a time to learn the you who you are becoming. Expect her to be different, and allow her the space and the grace to learn and grow.

Judging her will slow her down.

Love her instead, and watch her growth unfold.

Because in the words of Kahlil Gibran, “The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain.”

The future you has a new depth to her being. She gets things done, but differently, because the things that used to matter so much….don’t matter much. Her friends who also have the deep carves of sorrow are a source of connection and joy. She understands the fear, but doesn’t operate according to it. She’s decisive, calm and confident.

She is you.

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