Don't let this be you

Since the loss of your spouse, you’ve no doubt experienced at least one person who said, “It’s been 10 years and it hurts like yesterday.”

Comments like these can be found in every social media group and grief group. They are spoken to the newly widowed as a spoiler alert: “It isn’t going to get easier.”

Some widowed people commit themselves to the misery with the same dedication that one commits to wedding vows. I get it, I did, too.

The misery becomes a measure of the depth of love. So, many people choose it, day after day. After all, misery can seem like the only option if your spouse is no longer here.

But this simply isn’t true.

The future is up to you entirely. You can create a future fueled by his love. You can honor him every step of the way. You can live big enough for the both of you. You can decide that the best gift you can give your late spouse is to choose to live again.

Because after the worst thing happens, the second worse thing is to stay stuck in the misery: to keep believing your current thoughts that feel terrible; to continue existing but never truly live.

Don’t let that be you.

My six-month coaching program called Life Reconstructed is exclusively for widowed people who refuse to stay stuck, who want to find their way forward toward a life of their own creation. If that’s you, simply click here and we’ll see if it’s a fit.