Beliefs, on purpose

What do you believe about yourself and your life after loss?

Beliefs are simply thoughts that we think often. Because our brains are wired for efficiency, beliefs tend to fly under the radar of our conscious thinking, making them tricky to discover. Although they can be hard to find, beliefs are powerful because we operate according to them.

One way to uncover beliefs is to consider where we feel stuck, unable to make progress. By asking ourselves why we feel stuck, answering that question, and then continuing to ask why, (think of the average 4-year old who asks, “but why?” over and over again) we can eventually uncover our beliefs related to the situation.

Once you feel you’ve identified your beliefs, ask yourself if they are true, useful, your own and current. Given that beliefs always create results in our lives, ask yourself whether you’re happy with those results. If you can’t answer “yes” to all of these, it may be time to establish new beliefs.

Creating new beliefs is like being a playwright and an actor. As a playwright you write your new beliefs, and as an actor you study your lines. Rehearsing those beliefs is to step into the role now; to practice becoming the character today. Memorizing your lines creates new pathways in your brain, making it easier to access those new beliefs with less effort.

Here are four powerful questions for you to consider:

1. What are the results you want most in your life?
2. What are the beliefs that have kept you from getting these results so far?
3. What do you need to believe to get the results you want?
4. Why don’t you believe this yet? What thoughts get in the way?

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